Relinquishment

From: a birthmother who's searching, including her reflective thoughts!

A sample copy of relinquishment papers to Catholic Social Services.

Know all men by these present: That_____________ the undersigned, being the

parent of _____________, a minor child born in the state of ________on the

___day of_____, 19--being unable to adequately provide or care for said minor,

hereby surrender the custody of said minor child to Catholic Social

Service________ a child welfare agency duly authorized under the laws of the

state of ______ to care for, maintain or place children in family homes for care

or adoption; and I also hereby relinquish to said agency all rights to every

kind or nature which I may have to the custody services, earnings, or control

whatsoever, over said minor child and hereby consent to the adoption of said

child by any person or persons deemed by said child welfare agency to be fit

and proper as adoptive parents. To the best of my knowledge said child _____

was/was not born out of wedlock. Signatures, Witnesses, acknowledgement,

This relinquishment has been duly recorded. Then a note at the bottom of the

page. "The parent or surviving parent of a child, or the mother of a child

born out of wedlock, may relinquish the child to a child welfare agency

licensed to place children for adoption by a written statement signed before 2

witnesses and acknowledges before a representative of the child welfare

agency. No such relinquishment shall be valid unless a copy be approved by and

filed with the State Department of Social Security and Welfare.

Ok Guys, did you read anything in here that promised confidentiality? I sure as hell

didn't. That good ol' boy handshake doesn't mean S___. If it ain't in writing?

The notation at the bottom of the page is what gets me. If this holds true for

all states why would anyone need a drop off place, no questions asked? Why

isn't this information given out in schools? The kids are afraid to tell the

parents so~~~~~~~~~, maybe if they knew they could take the baby to an agency,

there wouldn't be so many headlines of babies being found here there and

everywhere. God, I'm on the soapbox again. Just thought you'd be interested in

reading the relinquishment agreement. Now, if I can just get a copy of the

ones I signed.

As consumers, every agreement that we enter in to has terms and conditions spelling out what each parties responsibilities are. The rules of the consumer game state, that what is in writing is what the parties are bound to, not what someone inferred to or mentioned in casual conversation outside of the contract.

Liken this scenario to that of the used car salesman that says that he'll take care of a problem with the car you are about to buy. He gains your confidence, but handily forgets to put the repair notation in the sales contract. Who gets to pay for that repair when it's all said and done?

Likewise, I don't see any 'confidentiality clause' written out in these relinquishment papers, do you?

RELINQUISHMENT AGREEMENT BETWEEN CATHOLIC CHARITIES AND A BIRTHMOTHER.

CLAIMS OF CONFIDENTIALITY ARE NO WHERE TO BE FOUND!

Where are the "Claims of Confidentiality" that the Adoption Community Claims is here?